Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Doors only close if you let them

Sixteen years ago, I met a guy and decided that my life needed to finally move in the direction it was supposed to. I needed to be the man I really was. It was the best decision I ever made.

But in doing so, I closed a door I figured would never be opened again.

I never understood how I could be so paternal if I wasn't going to have kids. It was what I had wished for all my life. People always said I was great with their children. A good friend at that time made me godfather of her son. My favorite line of all came from my friend Karen, "Steve's the only gay man I know who carry on two conversations at a restaurant and still cut my kid's food up."

If that was as close to fatherhood as I could get, so be it. The cards were dealt and who was I to question things.

And then 6 years ago today, the call came. Two wonderful women who had asked us to parent with them, were on the other end of the phone announcing that our son was born.

Regardless if you are at the end of a telephone line or an umbilical cord, to hear you've become a parent is the greatest thing life has to offer.

My son, you constantly amaze me with the things you say and way you think. It scares me to think you trust me enough to be your dad. You should only know how important I take this responsibility. You are the greatest gift I have ever received.

May this year be as happy as the previous five. I hope you be feel challenged, rewarded, exhilarated and loved. I know I do.

Happy Birthday, Corey.



Blogger Whit said...

It's great, isn't it. Happy birthday, Corey!

9:28 PM  
Blogger Mamma said...

There's no doubt in my mind you are an amazing father--to an amazing kiddo.

Happy Birthday little dude.

11:07 PM  
Blogger Bacchus said...

Happy Birthday C Man!

Hope all is well on this great day.

1:45 AM  
Blogger Kelly O said...

Aaaawwwwww. Happy birthday to your little man!

7:48 AM  
OpenID terribleturnip said...

Happy Birthday Corey -- all the BEST people are born on July 29th!

(Give your Dads a hug from me)

8:55 AM  
Blogger Darren said...

Happy 6th to Corey!

12:17 PM  
Blogger Daddy L said...

Happy happy Corey. You're a lucky boy to have such an amazing Dad.

1:19 PM  
Anonymous MetroDad said...

What an amazing and inspiring story, Steve. Truly toucing. I loved it. Happy birthday, Corey!

1:57 PM  
Blogger Papa Bradstein said...

Happy Belated Birthday, Corey! All the best people are born in July.

3:42 AM  
Blogger Mrs. Chili said...

Children ALWAYS find a way to the parents they need.

Happy birthday - to both of you.

Much love,


10:02 AM  
Blogger Jeff said...

Beautiful post Steve. Sorry I'm late with the birthday wishes, but Happy Birthday to your son!

5:57 PM  
Blogger Rich | Championable said...

Aw. This gave me happy tingles.

10:49 PM  
Blogger creative-type dad said...

Happy Birthday Corey!

1:56 AM  
Blogger Lola and Ava said...

I still remember the email about Corey's birth, my jaw hitting the desk, telling the girls, crying with joy, and then shopping for the little dude. Happy birthday, Corey! You are the spitting image of your dad.

8:50 AM  
Blogger Lisa said...

Ahh, I hope Corey had a great birthday! Leos are the best!

12:25 PM  
Blogger Ken Zielske said...

Late to the party, but happy birthday Corey!

8:38 PM  
Anonymous Mitch McDad said...

That was awesome. Period.

7:17 PM  

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